I just got home from grocery shopping. While I was at the store, I saw a mom shopping with two little boys. One of the boys was singing something to himself and kind of dancing around to the music in his head. It was totally adorable.
All of a sudden, his mom yelled, "Stop singing!"
The boy startled and froze with his hands at his sides.
His mother said, "You're flitting around like a girl," and she kind of flapped her hands in the air and made an ugly face, mocking the little boy's dancing. "You're not a girl, so quit acting like one!"
His older brother laughed at him, and the boy bit his bottom lip and tried to act tough. I felt like my heart was ripped out of my body.
It's different, in my world. All the people I spend time with get that there's no such thing as "acting like a girl." They understand that there is no appropriate situation in which you should yell at a child for singing. Sometimes, when I'm out by myself, surrounded by people I don't know, I feel totally lost. I feel like I live in a little pod of good people and smart people and that 95% of the people in this world are pieces of shit.